Even with everything that we are going through, I’m still fiercely protective of other mothers who are faced with the decision to terminate. Whenever I see a poor prenatal diagnosis thread on my message board, I lurk, send private messages, and share my story. I send her to the TFMR board and bump pertinent threads. If they make a public post on our Birth Board about terminating, I’ll go back and stalk it to make sure no one leaves a crass or horrific response.

I’ve found a few, but they were mainly people comments about how God won’t give you more than you can handle and religious comfort. I responded back (nicely, too! can you believe it!), that while those platitudes may help YOU, it sounds condescending when you tell another person that.

It’s a little scary to open up and comment on the Normal Board – to admit to these pregnant women that I tx’d two years ago. But I feel that if I can perhaps help one person, to at least guide her to the TFMR board, then it’s worth it.


6 thoughts on “Protective

  1. A nurse at my Ob/Gyn’s office ran into me one day shortly after my TFMR and said that god can’t give you more than you can handle bit. I talked to the office manager about this. She was fired that week.

    Kudos to you for sticking up for women in vulnerable situations! ❤

  2. Hey, girl! I’ve been reading your blog when on my darkest days…still think about you and wonder how it turned out for you in the end. I hope you’re happy. I hope your dark days are over as well, or you have just found the way how to function in the dimension you would call “your normal”. If you need someone to talk to, would love to converse. Much love to you!

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